I always thought this was a pretty good story, maybe you all will think so too.
I had been married 8 years at the time. 2 young kids in tow. I owned a children’s party business that was doing pretty well. I had to get one of my bounce houses inspected by the state’s safety guy for an upcoming event. My best friend (Mr. 80’s) told me I could stay with his brother who lived near the inspection site. I had to travel 400 miles with a 7 and 4 year old alone with a trailer in tow. Not a problem I was butch then too. Mr. 80’s met us at his brothers house with his 2 young boys. We decided to make a weekend out of it. We all got settled in to his brother’s bachelor pad when 80’s brother asked if we minded that his band was coming over for a jam session. We were on a mini vacation and said hell no sounds great. 4 kids and the two of us scrunched together on the couch as the band members filed in. Everyone was introduced except the singer who was notoriously late and maybe a little flakey, but hella talented I was told.
The band tuned up and goofed off for about 20 minutes while we waited on the singer. Then in walks a young boy with startling deep eyes. I was immediately hooked, unbelievable beauty right in front of my eyes. DD piped up “Mommy is that a girl or a boy?” OMG that was a girl, the beautiful short haired street kid was a girl.
You have to know me a little here.
I am not quiet. I am not usually shy, I demand attention in a group, the life of the party (sometimes only in my own head I’m sure).
I sat on that couch with an arm around each of my kids in complete awe. My mouth was dry and my head was actually spinning. I could not have stood if someone had yelled “fire!” my legs were goo. I could hear my heart over the drum and bass. Then she sang, it was as though she were singing to me ( I know she wasn’t) my heart melted and I was gone. The band stayed for a couple hours practicing, goofing and talking to everyone. I said maybe 5 words the whole time and all were directed at my kiddos. I was a wreck by the end of 2 hours- my world was completely changed. Mr. 80’s thought I was pissed or uncomfortable having the kiddos around these new rocker friends. He commented to his brother that I was not always like that. My head spun for weeks.
Weird part of this coming out story is that gay thing didn’t bother me as much as my attraction to a girl. She was barely 19 and I was 28, I felt like a dirty old man. I tried my best to steer clear of her that year, but we ended up in the same place many many times. Each time she took my breath away and I never told her anything. I don’t regret it, it would have been very messed up. Anyways… I always think of her with the fondest memories.
I officially came out to my X and my family within a month of meeting her. I came out to Mr. 80’s in about 3 days ( I can’t keep a secret from him). 80’s said “damnit that girl has a magic wand”. It was definite and not a phase. Crazy, huh?
End of story.
